Former BYU center Connor Pay is back for year two of his decade-long journey — and what a year it's been. From the highs of NFL mini camps with the Seattle Seahawks and Las Vegas Raiders, to an unexpected pivot into college coaching and international entrepreneurship, Connor's story is proof that God's plan is almost never the plan you made.
In this episode:
- The NFL dream — and what actually happened. Connor breaks down the brutal reality of life as an undrafted free agent: the bidding wars that went dark, the piece of paper in his locker, the flights that got canceled, and why not getting preseason film can end a career before it starts.
- Coaching at BYU. How a conversation with head coach Kalani Sitake turned into a full-time staff position — and why Connor never saw it coming.
- The We Are One Foundation. Connor is heading to Tonga in June to open an employment center for 130 remote workers, running in partnership with BYU Pathway. He's the VP of the foundation and co-founder of the affiliated company alongside Isaiah Kafue.
- NIL, the transfer portal, and real talk about money. Connor lived on both sides of the NIL era and is now coaching guys through it. His message: you may never make this much money again — invest now.
- Elder Rasband. A two-and-a-half-hour conversation about honesty, NIL, and revelation — leading to a friendship that ended with an apostle sealing Connor and his new wife Mallory in the temple.
- Mallory. She DM'd him on Instagram. He responded. They got married in February. Two months in, he's already the one filling up her water bottle before bed.
- D&C 88:73 and a phone password that finally made sense. One of the most quietly powerful "hand of the Lord" stories you'll hear — seven years in the making.
- How to receive revelation — what Elder Rasband taught Connor's younger brother Austin that applies to all of us.
Links:
- Track your own decade: adecadenevertobeforgotten.com — use the daily journal to answer a new question every day and watch your perspective change over the years
- The app: adntbf.com
Want to follow Connor's journey? Tune in again next year — and next time, Mallory's joining too.
